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Thinking Inter-generationally

Susan Yates
Susan YatesFebruary 24

This week I missed my mother.

My “babies,” our twenty-nine-year-old twin daughters, Susy and Libby, were home with their first babies, one four months and one fourteen months. Watching my girls nurse their babies, coo sweetly at them, and respond knowingly to each distinct cry, I visualized myself doing the same thing not too long ago even though it was forever ago! And I wished my mother was here to see my girls with their babies. My Mom was killed instantly in an automobile accident five years ago, and even though I take comfort in the fact that she never suffered and that she’s with the Lord whom she adored, I know she would have loved being here in the center, watching her great-grands and observing the awe on the faces of their mothers. How I wish she was here to share these precious moments with me.

I believe there’s an unusual interconnectedness between generations of women. The older I get, the more I think of my mother and grandmothers. Looking back I wonder what they thought about their lives. I wish I knew more of the things they experienced. I wish they were here so that I could ask them questions that I didn’t think of when they were alive. I long to be able to thank them for things they did that I didn’t appreciate at the time! And then my thoughts turn to generations in the other directions—my children and their kids and one day my great-grandchildren––the fears, dreams and prayers I have for them.

As I read the Bible I’m reminded over and over again that our God is the God of generations. He is always talking about generations of families. He cares about our generations. And He is the redeemer and restorer. No matter what our background, with His help we can be the first of a generation of healthy families. God loves families.

One of the things I pray for my generations to come is from Isaiah 59:21:

As for me, this is my covenant with them says the Lord. My Spirit who is on you and my words that I have put in your mouth will not depart from your mouth or from the mouths of your children, or from the mouths of their descendants from this time on and forever, says the Lord.”


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Anonymous @ 2/25/2009 9:52:47 PM 
I also lost my mom..She passed 2 years ago, and It took me along time to let her go. I felt I was abandoning her? Then my daughter told me something hard to hear but truthful,she said mom if you don't let grandma go, you will cause me the same pain. I asked her what she ment and she explained how my health had become worse the more I would not face mom's death and I realized I was killing myself with grief. I decided that night to go out into the rain, look up into the sky and release my mom, I know she is in my heart, but I couldn't hold on forever!It's been alittle over 5 months now and it's also helping me deal with the Empty Nest feelings I have been dealing with. Out of 3 children 2 have now left home to live their own lives and if my 16 year old had not had the wisdom to see what I couldn't, I would still be in a very painful place..Thank you Lord for my Children, and thank you for your articles, they have helped me so very much!!
Anonymous @ 2/24/2009 9:48:00 PM 
I lost my mom 2yrs. ago while she was sleeping. For a very long time I wasn't able to let go of my mother and held tightly, I just couldn't face the feeling that I would be abandoning her in some way or so I thought, but when I was finally ready I took that step, it hurt and I could not believe this but I feel happy in a way afterwards? Finally having some kind of peace after 2yrs. of pain...Now my son which is my oldest child, and my oldest daughter have left home to start their own new lives, in a way I am so happy for them and in a way I really struggling with this! I don't want to be a clingy mom, but I miss them so...How do I cope?
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